Living and Teaching Unity – Arthie and Brian Moore

Da Moores 2012 Arthie, Brian and Family‘Living and Teaching Unity’

An excerpt from: Golden Room.

Many cross cultural couples will readily include in their list of the benefits of being in a cross cultural relationship, the delight in being able to have two weddings that reflect their dual cultural heritage.But for Arthie and Brian Moore of South Africa, two weddings wasn’t quite enough to reflect, represent and celebrate this couple’s inspiring journey. They have in fact married each other seven times, and the second wedding was a surprise wedding!

Their story begins with a dream. The amazing and almost unbelievably accurate dream of a young girl in year seven at school, about the kind of man she wanted to marry. And the dream of a nation that it would one day be free from apartheid.Arthie grew up as a fourth generation Asian South African in a Hindu family classed as ‘Indian’..

Unusually her family came from divergent socio- economic backgrounds, with entrepreneurs on one side and fishermen and carpenters on the other side, her roots stemmed from indentured labourers from the Indian subcontinent.

From an early age Arthie’s family understood she was somewhat rebellious and determined, a person who knew exactly what she wanted and how to get it. For a school project Arthie wrote out her dreams where she described exactly who she would marry and what they would do with their lives together; her future husband would also be tall with blue eyes and blonde hair.

Perhaps her family only gave cursory attention to this detail. After all in the South Africa of this time White people and Asian, ‘Coloured’ and Black people had very little interaction. There were separate neighbourhoods, separate schools, separate churches, and separate sports leagues. In effect, just as the policy intended, -apartheid meaning separateness- the people of South Africa were separated in every conceivable way.

The ‘races’ of South Africa certainly did not intermarry. (more) via www.goldenroom.co.uk.

Healing the Soul of Africa.

A letter to the many people of Africa and South Africa who suffer, or who have suffered, as result of the legacies of the past.
During our workplace diversity training programmes we often come across people who are in pain over matters that happened in the past. Not only the recent past, many people are still affected by events that harmed their ancestors. This pain can be healed but often group belief systems stand in the way of peace.

Africa has a history of incredible harsh acts, programmes and policies by various groups targeting other groups. The British against the Afrikaner. The British against African and Indian communities. African versus Eastern South Africans. The “whites” against the “blacks.” The Afrikaner versus the “coloured”, “Indian” and “blacks.” Clan against clan. One political group against another. There have been far too many to mention.
These events caused a deep-rooted legacy of anger which will not be cleared until the “descendants” lay down the past through apology and forgiveness.


There is a fairly commonly held belief amongst the more traditional African cultures that one’s well-being and good fortune is dependent on the well-being of one’s ancestors.


Should an ancestor still be in pain because of a past injustice his living descendants will suffer. The only way that life can be lived normally is if there is an apology from the “descendants” of the original perpetrators and if that apology is accepted. At this point the living can move on and their lives will become far better.


Thus the apology by the British government to the descendants of a Zulu King, who was buried in manacles and recently exhumed and re-buried a “free” man, has healed the spirits and souls of many South Africans.


In the Northern Province we came across a young Bapedi man who could not look at any “white” person without feeling aggrieved. He was a young boy when he was caught up in the 1976 Soweto riots, where apartheid forces shot at and killed friends, relatives and neighbours. He watched many people die and still lived with the anger. Two “white” people apologized to him and his relief was visible and immediate.


Zimbabwe’s President Mugabe continuously brings up the terrible British colonial past. He uses his anger and that of his people to build the deep-rooted hatred of the “whites.” That Britain is no longer a “colonial” force is irrelevant. The damage has been done and the healing path has not been walked.


Tony Blair and his nation stand now on a “moral” high ground – founded upon centuries of injustice and domination. The result of the injustices will not go away without any action. If the British, through their leaders and Monarch, apologise there could be an immediate reduction in tension.

Yes, it is time for us to lay down our past, but not in the Western way of “let bye-gones be bye-gones.”


If we believe that past events were unacceptable and that we can heal the hearts and souls of our fellow humans, we must take the time to publicly apologise for the actions of our ancestors. In order to do so we must accept that even if it was not directly “my” or “your” ancestors who are responsible, in the eyes of those aggrieved, we represent the people/ ancestors who are.


Everyone, including the British government, PW Botha, the “descendants” of those who acted badly in any nasty or violent acts can heal our people/ continent through apologies. In so doing we will have a chance of a brilliant future together.


In closing, we the undersigned, unconditionally apologise to the people of Africa for any pain that I, or my ancestors, have inflicted upon them or their ancestors.


We ask them for forgiveness and wish that they are healed with time and that we can find a way to be humans together for a better World.
0724394220 (Fax) or e-mail us on brian@africa-dreams.com.
Written in 2002. Relevant today.


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